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Avoid Dissension

September 19, 2011

Paul finishes up Titus here in 3:9-15.  I love how he doesn’t mix words at the end of his letters.  Titus 3:9-11 says in the NKJV “9 But avoid foolish disputes, contentions, and strivings about the law; for they are unprofitable and useless. 10 Reject a divisive man after the first and second admonition, 11 knowing that such a person is warped and sinning, being self-condemned.”

I think we as leaders find it easier to reject than to admonish, so often the process becomes warped because we move straight to reject and skip admonishment.  Paul is reminding Titus that it is his duty to admonish those who stray into foolish disputes, and let’s be honest, as leaders we run into this often.  Of the times I have admonished someone I have found different responses, some good, some bad.  The one thing we must, MUST, remember is we are not responsible for the response, we are responsible for the admonition.

Let’s face it, it’s hard to admonish.  When I think of ways I have admonished over my short years, I think of my failures and successes.  Some things to think about when admonishing:

1.  Mode-never, never, never electronically, no texts, no emails, certainly no social media, and if you can help it, no phone calls, have the intestinal fortitude to admonish face to face.

2.  Attitude-always remember that your heart is deceitful above all things and desperately wicked, it could be you that someone is admonishing next so treat the person how you would want to be treated.

3.  Goal-the goal is twofold-love and reconciliation.  Love for the person and reconciliation for the relationship.

I am sure someone else would add or detract from that list, but don’t skip to the end, when God prescribes a process, don’t short it out!  It will work, maybe not right away, but His Word will not return void, I have to believe that, and you should too!

Lead with Love,

Dave

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